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The Menopause Years Can Be the Best of Your Life!

While millions of lines of information have been written about the negative effects of the menopause and they are undeniably real, I like to focus on the silver lining, how to make the years starting with the age of forty better than any other time of a woman’s life. Let me share comments from two letters.  Dear Jacqui I’m forty-five and have been going through menopause for the last three years. I really feel devastated. I have hot flashes, and when they occur during work in the middle of a meeting, it’s very embarrassing. My sleep pattern too is disturbed and worst, sex has become a burden rather than a pleasure, it’s that uncomfortable. I feel awkward talking about it...

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Is that Stye in the Eye of the Blepharitis

Do you often have itchy or burning eyes? Are your eyes stuck together in the morning? Do they tear a lot? Is your vision blurry or do you get frequent styes? These symptoms happen to hundreds of thousands of patients – including me, recently. The problems are due to an eyelid condition known as blepharitis. I turned to Dr. Robert Goldberg, internationally renowned Ophthalmologist, Professor of Ophthalmology, and Chief of the Orbital and Ophthalmic Plastic Surgery Division of the Jules Stein Eye Institute in Los Angeles. “Blepharitis is a type of eyelid irritation that is characterized by poor functioning of the glands of the eyelid,” he explains. “We do know that the meibomian glands (a special kind of sebaceous gland at the...

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I Urinate During Orgasim. Is There Anything I Can Do?

Dear Jacqui, In the last few years I started to urinate during orgasm. I’m so upset about this, it makes me try not to have one. Is there anything I can do about this and is it normal? Caroline Dear Caroline I have a hunch that what you are experiencing is “female ejaculation.” There are two little glands situated near the urethra and they can ejaculate some fluid during orgasm. Because they are close to the urethra women often think that this may be urine, which it isn’t. So talk openly with your partner about it. He’ll be happy to know that he has a really sexy partner! Now that you know this, you may be relieved and once again...

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My Boyfriend is 20 Years Younger than Me and Peters Out Too Quickly.

Dear Jacqui, I’m going out with a man that is 20 years older than me (I’m 40). He has a lot of energy and stamina. I am a very passionate person and I love sex and we share a very health relationship in that regard. I do find, however, that he “peters out” and I’m still in need. What do you suggest? He is very attentive to my needs before his needs are quickly fulfilled. I love this man very much and want to explore how we can adapt or change this sexual mismatch? Diana   Dear Diana, What I suggest is frank as well as loving discussion between the two of you. A great relationship is based on open...

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My Boyfriend Can't Handle Intimacy. What Can I Do?

Dear Jacqui, I’ve been divorced for a very long time and suddenly found Mr. Wonderful. We’ve been dating for only 1 month and it’s probably been the happiest time of my life. We are completely compatible…except there is a sexual problem. I have given him manual and oral sexual pleasure and he keeps encouraging me to continue. However, he has never approached me sexually, just lots of loving hugs and cuddling, but not even one deep kiss. Arthur is not in the best of health; he has problems with gout, high blood pressure and takes medication that may affect his libido. He is a little overweight and enjoys his daily libation. I’m a very active, sexual woman and have had...

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