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Resuming Sexuality After Cancer

It is a well known fact that chemo, radiation, a total hysterectomy (including the removal of the ovaries), low hormone levels and/or the withdrawal from estrogen replacement therapy, all affect the delicate vaginal tissue. It’s natural for women going through cancer treatment to focus primarily on getting well. Sex fades into the background. The treatments also cause vaginal tissue changes, including vaginal dryness, which makes sexuality uncomfortable and even painful. It is the reason why many women withdraw from sexuality. Recuperation may take many months and often leaves the woman with severe psychological issues. Healing of the body and the psyche come slowly. The interruption of engagement in intimacy causes sensitive problems between partners and can put a lot of...

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The Menopause Years Can Be the Best of Your Life!

While millions of lines of information have been written about the negative effects of the menopause and they are undeniably real, I like to focus on the silver lining, how to make the years starting with the age of forty better than any other time of a woman’s life. Let me share comments from two letters.  Dear Jacqui I’m forty-five and have been going through menopause for the last three years. I really feel devastated. I have hot flashes, and when they occur during work in the middle of a meeting, it’s very embarrassing. My sleep pattern too is disturbed and worst, sex has become a burden rather than a pleasure, it’s that uncomfortable. I feel awkward talking about it...

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Is that Stye in the Eye of the Blepharitis

Do you often have itchy or burning eyes? Are your eyes stuck together in the morning? Do they tear a lot? Is your vision blurry or do you get frequent styes? These symptoms happen to hundreds of thousands of patients – including me, recently. The problems are due to an eyelid condition known as blepharitis. I turned to Dr. Robert Goldberg, internationally renowned Ophthalmologist, Professor of Ophthalmology, and Chief of the Orbital and Ophthalmic Plastic Surgery Division of the Jules Stein Eye Institute in Los Angeles. “Blepharitis is a type of eyelid irritation that is characterized by poor functioning of the glands of the eyelid,” he explains. “We do know that the meibomian glands (a special kind of sebaceous gland at the...

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I Urinate During Orgasim. Is There Anything I Can Do?

Dear Jacqui, In the last few years I started to urinate during orgasm. I’m so upset about this, it makes me try not to have one. Is there anything I can do about this and is it normal? Caroline Dear Caroline I have a hunch that what you are experiencing is “female ejaculation.” There are two little glands situated near the urethra and they can ejaculate some fluid during orgasm. Because they are close to the urethra women often think that this may be urine, which it isn’t. So talk openly with your partner about it. He’ll be happy to know that he has a really sexy partner! Now that you know this, you may be relieved and once again...

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My Boyfriend is 20 Years Younger than Me and Peters Out Too Quickly.

Dear Jacqui, I’m going out with a man that is 20 years older than me (I’m 40). He has a lot of energy and stamina. I am a very passionate person and I love sex and we share a very health relationship in that regard. I do find, however, that he “peters out” and I’m still in need. What do you suggest? He is very attentive to my needs before his needs are quickly fulfilled. I love this man very much and want to explore how we can adapt or change this sexual mismatch? Diana   Dear Diana, What I suggest is frank as well as loving discussion between the two of you. A great relationship is based on open...

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