Expert Advice — Jacqui Brandwynne RSS



For Love or Money?

Dear Jacqui, I'm widowed and the single supporter of my still school age daughters and myself. Often, at month’s end, I wonder if I can get by. Financial worries are a constant source of worry. Suddenly the possibility of a new life has presented itself. The man I have been dating for less than a year asked me to marry. I am in deep like with him but am just not sure that I love him. Robert has shown me more kindness than any man I've ever known.  He owns a very successful business and has shown great generosity to us all. My kids like him. My girlfriends tell me to grab him. Yet I keep asking myself if saying...

Continue reading



A Gift to Yourself – Less Stress, More Joy!

Yes, it’s doable. Stress can be controlled, and it’s based on a determined pursuit that leads to better health and a more contented life. Numerous studies demonstrate that reducing stress reduces the risk of heart attack significantly, and is also a big factor in preventing illness. So how can we cope better? First, we must recognize that stress affects every human being differently, so there is no universal formula. Nonetheless, there are recognized methods that will help you specifically in reducing stress in your life.  There are different kinds of stress: some which you can control and correct, and others that you cannot. The key to coping with the second kind is learning to accept the things we can’t change....

Continue reading



Resuming Sexuality After Cancer

It is a well known fact that chemo, radiation, a total hysterectomy (including the removal of the ovaries), low hormone levels and/or the withdrawal from estrogen replacement therapy, all affect the delicate vaginal tissue. It’s natural for women going through cancer treatment to focus primarily on getting well. Sex fades into the background. The treatments also cause vaginal tissue changes, including vaginal dryness, which makes sexuality uncomfortable and even painful. It is the reason why many women withdraw from sexuality. Recuperation may take many months and often leaves the woman with severe psychological issues. Healing of the body and the psyche come slowly. The interruption of engagement in intimacy causes sensitive problems between partners and can put a lot of...

Continue reading



You Partner Learns He Has Prostate Cance. Now What?

When first diagnosed with prostate cancer, your partner and you are suddenly faced with difficult issues affecting your future life together. Many questions arise: What treatments are available? How will they affect us? What is the best therapy, and what are the risks? How will our sex life be affected? There are many outstanding professionals and highly regarded institutions that can give you good advice. No two cancers are the same and thus may require different treatments. Before deciding on a particular treatment or doctor, learn about your options. We turned to The Prostate Cancer Center of Seattle (www.prostatecancertreatmentcenter.com) because they have developed a unique and consumer friendly database to help patients with prostate cancer. For years they have been...

Continue reading



The Menopause Years Can Be the Best of Your Life!

While millions of lines of information have been written about the negative effects of the menopause and they are undeniably real, I like to focus on the silver lining, how to make the years starting with the age of forty better than any other time of a woman’s life. Let me share comments from two letters.  Dear Jacqui I’m forty-five and have been going through menopause for the last three years. I really feel devastated. I have hot flashes, and when they occur during work in the middle of a meeting, it’s very embarrassing. My sleep pattern too is disturbed and worst, sex has become a burden rather than a pleasure, it’s that uncomfortable. I feel awkward talking about it...

Continue reading