My Boyfriend is 20 Years Younger than Me and Peters Out Too Quickly.

Dear Jacqui,

I’m going out with a man that is 20 years older than me (I’m 40). He has a lot of energy and stamina. I am a very passionate person and I love sex and we share a very health relationship in that regard.

I do find, however, that he “peters out” and I’m still in need. What do you suggest? He is very attentive to my needs before his needs are quickly fulfilled. I love this man very much and want to explore how we can adapt or change this sexual mismatch?



Dear Diana,

What I suggest is frank as well as loving discussion between the two of you. A great relationship is based on open and clear communication. Great sex depends on understanding what makes you and your partner happy. Tell him how you feel. Tell him what you like. The more details the better.

Be specific, show him, and learn. It is a give and take process, and no two people are alike. I am sure once he knows what you like he will be thrilled to make you even happier in and out of bed.


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