Dear Jacqui,
I am getting married in a couple months. I'm still a virgin and wondering what is the best way to have sex for the first time. What will cause the least amount of pain. Is there anything I can do before hand to make things more comfortable. I've heard there are techniques to make it less painful. If you have any advice let me know. Thanks!
Amy

Dear Amy,
Congratulations on your forthcoming marriage. It is quite normal to have some apprehension before engaging in sexual activity for the first time. Let me tell you that many women experience no pain or even discomfort during their first sexual encounter.

The most important aspect is for your future husband and you to discover each other and be gentle together. You both should read a book or two on sexuality and intimacy and learn together. You both should engage in long, gentle foreplay so that the penetration comes naturally.

You should take your time to kiss and stroke, and you should learn to understand your own body's reaction so that you can give him some guidance. Touch and stroke your body, your nipples, your thighs, the inside of your vaginal lips, around your vaginal opening, your clitoris. Understand what is pleasurable to you and then let him know.

The more we are able to focus on the activities that give us pleasure, the more we can fulfill each other and please each other. As we know each other better our sexual and emotional lives become richer and more enjoyable. When the time comes, remind him to proceed gently and slowly so you can enjoy yourself and not tighten up.

I also suggest you use an intimate moisturizer so you are well lubricated. It should be FDA approved and not contain fragrance or any additives.

I recommend Very Private Intimate Moisture which is FDA approved, pH balanced to the vaginal tissue and hypo- allergenic. It is also very protective of the vaginal tissue. Couples often write to us that it makes intimacy even more pleasurable. You may find it on www.veryprivate.com under products. I wish you luck and happiness.

Jacqui




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	"I'm still a virgin and wondering what is the best way to have sex with my husband to be?" Dear Jacqui, I am getting married in a couple months. I'm still a virgin and wondering what is the best way to have sex for the first time. What will cause the least amount of pain. Is there anything I can do before hand to make things more comfortable. I've heard there are techniques to make it less painful. If you have any advice let me know. Thanks! Amy Dear Amy, Congratulations on your forthcoming marriage. It is quite normal to have some apprehension before engaging in sexual activity for the first time. Let me tell you that many women experience no pain or even discomfort during their first sexual encounter. The most important aspect is for your future husband and you to discover each other and be gentle together. You both should read a book or two on sexuality and intimacy and learn together. You both should engage in long, gentle foreplay so that the penetration comes naturally. You should take your time to kiss and stroke, and you should learn to understand your own body's reaction so that you can give him some guidance. Touch and stroke your body, your nipples, your thighs, the inside of your vaginal lips, around your vaginal opening, your clitoris. Understand what is pleasurable to you and then let him know. The more we are able to focus on the activities that give us pleasure, the more we can fulfill each other and please each other. As we know each other better our sexual and emotional lives become richer and more enjoyable. When the time comes, remind him to proceed gently and slowly so you can enjoy yourself and not tighten up. I also suggest you use an intimate moisturizer so you are well lubricated. It should be FDA approved and not contain fragrance or any additives. I recommend Very Private Intimate Moisture which is FDA approved, pH balanced to the vaginal tissue and hypo- allergenic. It is also very protective of the vaginal tissue. Couples often write to us that it makes intimacy even more pleasurable. You may find it on www.veryprivate.com under products. I wish you luck and happiness. Jacqui Copyright 2001 Brandwynne Corporation. All rights reserved.

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