Dear Jacqui:
What do you do when the opening to your vagina is small and always dry, and your partner can't penetrate you?
Stacy

Dear Stacy:
Many women have narrow vaginal openings and once they experience problems with penetration they are anxious that the same difficulty will reoccur.

This apprehension then causes a number of symptoms that make the problem worse the next time they engage in intimacy. In general the anxiousness causes the muscles inside the vagina to contract causing more tightness.Additionally, stress causes the body not to release the necessary lubricating moisture during sexual foreplay, so indeed penetration becomes difficult and painful. However, we know of no case where a small vaginal opening prevented sexual penetration or fulfillment. Here are a few steps we suggest you follow:

l) Discuss the problems openly with your partner. Make it a project to solve together. A caring man will have understanding and the willingness to participate in finding a happy solution.

2) Relax before intimacy. Get into a positive frame of mind. Whatever it is to make you feel warm and close, do it; music, a glass of wine, or talking. Get into the mode of desiring to be together rather than being anxious about it. Your problem can be solved.

3) Use an intimate moisturizer/lubricant daily. Obviously your tissue is dry. Just like the skin in your face, it needs moisture every day. Apply a little bit inside the vaginal opening and use the occasion to explore your insides. Feel what gives you pleasure. Acknowledge what feels good.

Learn to relax and then share the experience with your partner. Before intimacy, let him apply the moisture and massage you while you apply it to him so that both of you are well lubricated before you move to penetration.

Very Private is the only pH balanced, gynecologist recommended lubricant that is formulated with three moisturizers so it feels very natural and lasts longer. It specifically facilitates the beginning of intimacy and penetration and enables both partners to enjoy intimacy as long as they wish without any discomfort).

4) Engage in foreplay. Sexual techniques can be learned and improved. Sexual pleasure is different and unique for every person. What feels good to one might not cause any reaction in another. To have a great sexual experience is important for you and your partner. To know what makes each of you happy, what makes each of you feel good, specifically. You can't be specific enough. Be open, share, help each other achieve a better experience.

5) Sexual function and enjoyment depends on your mindset as well as your body. We are sure that with the right attitude and better knowledge about your physical functions and likes you will be able to relax and enjoy full sexuality.

You may wish to see a gynecologist to have your hormone levels checked. Low hormone levels can cause lack of moisture and low libidoJacqui




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	"My vagina is small and always dry." Dear Jacqui: What do you do when the opening to your vagina is small and always dry, and your partner can't penetrate you? Stacy Dear Stacy: Many women have narrow vaginal openings and once they experience problems with penetration they are anxious that the same difficulty will reoccur. This apprehension then causes a number of symptoms that make the problem worse the next time they engage in intimacy. In general the anxiousness causes the muscles inside the vagina to contract causing more tightness.Additionally, stress causes the body not to release the necessary lubricating moisture during sexual foreplay, so indeed penetration becomes difficult and painful. However, we know of no case where a small vaginal opening prevented sexual penetration or fulfillment. Here are a few steps we suggest you follow: l) Discuss the problems openly with your partner. Make it a project to solve together. A caring man will have understanding and the willingness to participate in finding a happy solution. 2) Relax before intimacy. Get into a positive frame of mind. Whatever it is to make you feel warm and close, do it; music, a glass of wine, or talking. Get into the mode of desiring to be together rather than being anxious about it. Your problem can be solved. 3) Use an intimate moisturizer/lubricant daily. Obviously your tissue is dry. Just like the skin in your face, it needs moisture every day. Apply a little bit inside the vaginal opening and use the occasion to explore your insides. Feel what gives you pleasure. Acknowledge what feels good. Learn to relax and then share the experience with your partner. Before intimacy, let him apply the moisture and massage you while you apply it to him so that both of you are well lubricated before you move to penetration. Very Private is the only pH balanced, gynecologist recommended lubricant that is formulated with three moisturizers so it feels very natural and lasts longer. It specifically facilitates the beginning of intimacy and penetration and enables both partners to enjoy intimacy as long as they wish without any discomfort). 4) Engage in foreplay. Sexual techniques can be learned and improved. Sexual pleasure is different and unique for every person. What feels good to one might not cause any reaction in another. To have a great sexual experience is important for you and your partner. To know what makes each of you happy, what makes each of you feel good, specifically. You can't be specific enough. Be open, share, help each other achieve a better experience. 5) Sexual function and enjoyment depends on your mindset as well as your body. We are sure that with the right attitude and better knowledge about your physical functions and likes you will be able to relax and enjoy full sexuality. You may wish to see a gynecologist to have your hormone levels checked. Low hormone levels can cause lack of moisture and low libidoJacqui Copyright 2001 Brandwynne Corporation. All rights reserved.

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