Dear Jacqui,
Hi, I'm an 18 year old girl and I've never been sexually active, but recently when I got my first boyfriend the littlest thing would "set me off" and I'd orgasm right then. Simply him holding my hand turned me on and I have never messed around with a guy.

The fact that it was constantly happening caused us to break up because I didn't want to get close to him, in fear that he'd find out. What can I do to stop this? Its becoming quite a messy problem, thanks
Nakita

Dear Nakita,
Orgasm can mean very different experiences. There are little orgasms that might well be set off by a kiss, or a touch, or holding hands. There are clitoral orgasms, vaginal orgasms.

Some women experience them all. Some never experience any of them. Some women reach orgasm by simply rubbing up to their partner. You seem to be a sensitive and very responsive person.Most women who write to me about their orgasm problems are wondering if and how they can experience this wonderful feeling? Of course I can understand that you want to feel safe and have boundaries.

I believe that when you understand that your response is not unnatural you will feel more comfortable and less tense. I can also promise you that when the right time comes that you will engage in sexuality, the feeling of reaching orgasm will be quite different and hopefully very joyful.

Meanwhile, if excessive female ejaculation occurs, you might wish to see your gynecologist and possibly have your hormone levels checked.

Jacqui

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