Dear Jacqui,
I've been married for several years and have two wonderful children. We have been sexually active for 12 years. I have, however, never experienced an orgasm during intercourse -- I experience them from foreplay instead. I feel that this is so abnormal. I love my husband very much and want to make him happy. Is there anything I can do to help correct this? I always worry that there is something else wrong with me that would be causing this. Please help, Candice

Dear Candice,
Thank you for your trust in me. Firstly, let me tell you that only about 35% of all women experience vaginal orgasms. Twice as many women come to orgasm through clitoral stimulation and many women prefer clitoral orgasms.

So be assured, your experience is in no way different from the norm. I suggest that you and your husband engage in long, wonderful, foreplay before ever moving to penetration. Penetration should only occur when both partners absolutely cannot wait any longer to be united.

Most sexologists advise that the woman should have an orgasm before penetration. Also, you should definitely use an intimate moisturizer such as Very Private which makes the beginning and the continuance of intercourse much more comfortable and enjoyable.

Very Private has two moisturizers and a lubricating ingredient. It actually protects the delicate vaginal tissue with millions of microscopic moisture pillows so you can have intimacy without any discomfort. It feels very natural and works instantly.

Very Private's lubricating ingredient eases the beginning of intimacy and entry. The moisturizing ingredients keep your tissue well moisturized. Just use a little on your husband and insert a few drops with your finger between your vaginal lips and inside your vaginal opening. Then proceed to foreplay. Maybe even make the actual application of the moisturizer part of foreplay.

Also, be sure your husband takes time entering you and you should be able to try new positions, for example the spoon position -- you're lying on your side, he's entering you from behind, should be very pleasurable.

In time, when you can relax, you may become more adventurous, just be sure to use and reuse the moisture during intimacy, as you need it, especially if you experience any dryness. With best wishes,

Jacqui


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	"I've never experienced an orgasm during Intercourse, is this abnormal?" Dear Jacqui, I've been married for several years and have two wonderful children. We have been sexually active for 12 years. I have, however, never experienced an orgasm during intercourse -- I experience them from foreplay instead. I feel that this is so abnormal. I love my husband very much and want to make him happy. Is there anything I can do to help correct this? I always worry that there is something else wrong with me that would be causing this. Please help, Candice Dear Candice, Thank you for your trust in me. Firstly, let me tell you that only about 35% of all women experience vaginal orgasms. Twice as many women come to orgasm through clitoral stimulation and many women prefer clitoral orgasms. So be assured, your experience is in no way different from the norm. I suggest that you and your husband engage in long, wonderful, foreplay before ever moving to penetration. Penetration should only occur when both partners absolutely cannot wait any longer to be united. Most sexologists advise that the woman should have an orgasm before penetration. Also, you should definitely use an intimate moisturizer such as Very Private which makes the beginning and the continuance of intercourse much more comfortable and enjoyable. Very Private has two moisturizers and a lubricating ingredient. It actually protects the delicate vaginal tissue with millions of microscopic moisture pillows so you can have intimacy without any discomfort. It feels very natural and works instantly. Very Private's lubricating ingredient eases the beginning of intimacy and entry. The moisturizing ingredients keep your tissue well moisturized. Just use a little on your husband and insert a few drops with your finger between your vaginal lips and inside your vaginal opening. Then proceed to foreplay. Maybe even make the actual application of the moisturizer part of foreplay. Also, be sure your husband takes time entering you and you should be able to try new positions, for example the spoon position -- you're lying on your side, he's entering you from behind, should be very pleasurable. In time, when you can relax, you may become more adventurous, just be sure to use and reuse the moisture during intimacy, as you need it, especially if you experience any dryness. With best wishes, Jacqui Copyright 2002 Brandwynne Corporation. All rights reserved. Thank you for your trust.

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