Dear Jacqui,
Hi my problem is that I have pain during sex. My fiancé and I have been together for over 2 years. My pain occurs only in spurts when were together physically.

Now that I have moved in with him the pain seems to be getting worse. There is no problem with lubrication, or readiness for sex because we take our time and build-up to it. It's frustrating wanting sex but knowing it will hurt badly. It now affects my sex drive. Any advice would help a lot.
Patti

Dear Patti,
There is a possibility that you have an undetected infection or inflammation in the vagina or pelvic region that causes the pain during intercourse. If the pain continues, I strongly suggest that you see a gynecologist to ascertain that there is no health condition present, which causes you these symptoms. You tell me that you and your partner engage in ample foreplay and that you are well lubricated in general. I assume therefore that your vaginal musculature was open and relaxed in the past.

However, now that you anticipate pain I am equally sure that your muscles are tight which makes you much more prone to feel pain. Have you ever tried a little massage of the tissue with an intimate moisturizer, and, using a little intimate moisture on your boy friend?

I suggest you give it a try. We make a very natural feeling moisturizer. You can find it on our website, www.veryprivate.com under products. It may just relax you and make intimacy completely comfortable. Many women use it for just that purpose. I hope it works for you. But, as suggested, if the discomfort continues, please see a doctor. Best wishes.

Jacqui

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