Dear Jacqui,
I'm not sure why every time we have sex it's always painful afterwards and in the beginning, sometimes even during. We've been together for a couple of years, but in the beginning it never hurt. I guess after about 2 years it started to hurt. I can't sit afterwards and even walking is sometimes painful. We've tried the KY lubricant but that just made my skin sting. We've talked about trying the lubricant you sell.

I just haven't purchased it yet. Primarily because I'm concerned about why sex is painful. Will the lubricant help or am I still going to be sore. I'm not sure what all to put in the email. Annie

Dear Annie,
There are a couple of reasons why you experience pain; it is possible that you have an undetected vaginal or pelvic inflammation or infection. Another reason is that you might have proceeded to penetration and intercourse too quickly. Most women need about 15 minutes of wonderful foreplay to be ready and open for penetration.

Thirdly, you may not have enough vaginal moisture at this time because of hormonal changes causing vaginal dryness. If that is the case, penetration and intercourse can be very uncomfortable and the tissue afterwards remains swollen and irritated.

A good intimate moisturizer will help. When you use Very Private be sure not to use any products for cleansing that contain fragrance, chemical colors or additives such as vitamins or plant additives. The moisturizer should be FDA approved, otherwise it is not safe to be used in the vaginal opening.

Use a couple of drops of moisture daily after washing. Apply it between the vaginal lips and around the vaginal opening to keep the tissue well protected. Before intimacy, be a little more lavish and use a few drops on the penis of your partner. If the pain continues, please see your doctor. Intimacy should be pleasurable and if it isn't there might be a good reason. With kind wishes,

Jacqui




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	"Everytime we have sex, before, during, and after, it's always painful, why?" Dear Jacqui, I'm not sure why every time we have sex it's always painful afterwards and in the beginning, sometimes even during. We've been together for a couple of years, but in the beginning it never hurt. I guess after about 2 years it started to hurt. I can't sit afterwards and even walking is sometimes painful. We've tried the KY lubricant but that just made my skin sting. We've talked about trying the lubricant you sell. I just haven't purchased it yet. Primarily because I'm concerned about why sex is painful. Will the lubricant help or am I still going to be sore. I'm not sure what all to put in the email. Annie Dear Annie, There are a couple of reasons why you experience pain; it is possible that you have an undetected vaginal or pelvic inflammation or infection. Another reason is that you might have proceeded to penetration and intercourse too quickly. Most women need about 15 minutes of wonderful foreplay to be ready and open for penetration. Thirdly, you may not have enough vaginal moisture at this time because of hormonal changes causing vaginal dryness. If that is the case, penetration and intercourse can be very uncomfortable and the tissue afterwards remains swollen and irritated. A good intimate moisturizer will help. When you use Very Private be sure not to use any products for cleansing that contain fragrance, chemical colors or additives such as vitamins or plant additives. The moisturizer should be FDA approved, otherwise it is not safe to be used in the vaginal opening. Use a couple of drops of moisture daily after washing. Apply it between the vaginal lips and around the vaginal opening to keep the tissue well protected. Before intimacy, be a little more lavish and use a few drops on the penis of your partner. If the pain continues, please see your doctor. Intimacy should be pleasurable and if it isn't there might be a good reason. With kind wishes, Jacqui Copyright 2001 Brandwynne Corporation. All rights reserved.

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