Dear Jacqui,
I'm writing about my vaginal dryness. Whether I am with a partner or myself, no matter how hard I try, I can't get wet. I've been like this for the past couple of years and it makes me mad and irritable. My boyfriend thinks he's not a turn on, I don't want him to know the truth, I'm embarrassed. I'll do anything to make it better,
Sandy

Dear Sandy,
I understand the sensitivity of your problem and it may have many causes. Since I don't know your age -- and you sound rather young -- I assume you're not yet in menopause when vaginal dryness becomes a very common problem for millions of women.

In your case it might be due to some irregularity of your hormone levels and the resulting "stress" that the condition causes might possibly make it worse. Becoming wet in the beginning of intimacy is triggered by a sequence of actions starting in your brain and resulting in the release of moisture.

If this doesn't happen, the problem may be physiologically or psychologically based, and often the two are connected. It is important that you get a thorough medical check-up.

Vaginal dryness can be associated with many different health conditions so proper diagnosis is essential for successful treatment. Please tell your boyfriend that it is absolutely not related to him. The two of you should go on my website, www.veryprivate.com and read up on vaginal dryness. It is a common problem for 42 million women, many young women among them. I understand your wish not to use a lubricant.

However, I think it might be helpful to have an intimate moisturizer nearby next time you make love. Lubricants usually are too slippery and feel unnatural. Most have been developed for male use. Many are not FDA approved and are not safe to use inside the body. Very Private is a true intimate moisturizer that protects the vaginal tissue and facilitates the beginning of intimacy. It is, of course, FDA and gynecologist approved and free of fragrance and all additives. You may find it on our website.

Jacqui




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	"No matter how hard I try, I can't get wet... It makes me mad and irritable!" Dear Jacqui, I'm writing about my vaginal dryness. Whether I am with a partner or myself, no matter how hard I try, I can't get wet. I've been like this for the past couple of years and it makes me mad and irritable. My boyfriend thinks he's not a turn on, I don't want him to know the truth, I'm embarrassed. I'll do anything to make it better, Sandy Dear Sandy, I understand the sensitivity of your problem and it may have many causes. Since I don't know your age -- and you sound rather young -- I assume you're not yet in menopause when vaginal dryness becomes a very common problem for millions of women. In your case it might be due to some irregularity of your hormone levels and the resulting "stress" that the condition causes might possibly make it worse. Becoming wet in the beginning of intimacy is triggered by a sequence of actions starting in your brain and resulting in the release of moisture. If this doesn't happen, the problem may be physiologically or psychologically based, and often the two are connected. It is important that you get a thorough medical check-up. Vaginal dryness can be associated with many different health conditions so proper diagnosis is essential for successful treatment. Please tell your boyfriend that it is absolutely not related to him. The two of you should go on my website, www.veryprivate.com and read up on vaginal dryness. It is a common problem for 42 million women, many young women among them. I understand your wish not to use a lubricant. However, I think it might be helpful to have an intimate moisturizer nearby next time you make love. Lubricants usually are too slippery and feel unnatural. Most have been developed for male use. Many are not FDA approved and are not safe to use inside the body. Very Private is a true intimate moisturizer that protects the vaginal tissue and facilitates the beginning of intimacy. It is, of course, FDA and gynecologist approved and free of fragrance and all additives. You may find it on our website. Jacqui Copyright 2002 Brandwynne Corporation. All rights reserved. Thank you for your trust.

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