Dear Jacqui,
I've had a yeast infection for five years and my boyfriend knows about it. He says it doesn't bother him but I think he just says that to keep me happy. It bothers me so much that when we make love, I can't climax. It's depressing. Please help, Isabelle

Dear Isabelle,
It could be, but I don't think so. First of all let me suggest that it is very important to clear up your yeast infection. Are you sure it is a yeast infection? There is compelling data showing that many women wrongly diagnose themselves and then cause further problems. I suggest you see your gynecologist and, if money is an issue, there are free clinics in every community. Just check in the phone book under free clinic.

Secondly, it is quite understandable that you have problems climaxing when your mind is preoccupied during intimacy. Lovemaking is about pleasure, which is only possible to feel when you let yourself experience what you are feeling, moment to moment.

Intimacy is not a mechanical act, it is not about performance, it is about giving each other pleasure and happiness and accepting these gifts with your entire being. I suggest you get your physical problem cleared up quickly and then focus on what you really feel during intimacy and other times as well.

Jacqui

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