Dear Jacqui:
Help! Most of my girl friends say that size doesn't matter. Well in the penis department, my husband is about 6 inches long and one and a half inches in diameter. Sex is fine with him but I don't climax with him inside me, nor if I stimulate myself. Last month I purchased a dildo. It's a non-vibrating kind. When I tried it I was amazed how good it felt. With a little movement I experienced orgasm after orgasm.

I love my husband and don't want to hurt his feelings. Yet, this size thing has got me thinking what it would be like to experience the real thing! Should I explore this more privately or just expect to satisfy myself with my fake friend?
Carla

Dear Carla:
A large percentage of women don't reach orgasm during intercourse. And nowhere is it written that it has to happen that way. Many women have far better and stronger orgasms with manual or oral stimulation. There are no rules as to enjoying pleasure during sexuality. If your "substitute" gives you sexual gratification, I suggest that you stick to your "plastic friend" rather than experimenting with an adventure you might deeply regret.

Another suggestion is to invite your husband into your sensual realm, enjoy with you a new sexual adventure. Admit your secret fantasies to each other. Tell each other what would really turn you on. Your husband in all probability also has some secret fantasies he hasn't shared. Many men are intrigued with sexual "toys" such as vibrators. He might actually enjoy using it together with you and giving both of you more pleasure.

If you really love your husband as you say, try to expand your sensuous world with him rather than putting your relationship at risk.

Jacqui