Dear Jacqui,
My husband demands that I have sex with him everyday when he comes through the door. I don't mind making love to my husband but I don't want to feel that I have to "submit" to his every desire, especially when I may not be in the mood. What is a caring wife to do? Nancy

Dear Nancy,
As to your husband's preference for daily intercourse I would give you the following advise. It is clear that you and your husband really never had an open and loving discussion about both your sexual preferences. For a couple to really have a continued good relationship, it is important that they understand each other's needs and desires and work out, together, to develop a good sexual relationship that is happy and gratifying for BOTH partners. The idea that a woman simply submits to sexuality even if she is not ready or not in the mood for it doesn't work. Sexuality is about giving EACH OTHER pleasure. Your husband should derive a lot of happiness to make you happy as well.

So please talk to him about that. If he cares about you he will not be offended but welcome your suggestion. Be honest. Tell him what you like and find out all the secret wishes he has. Show him where and how you like to be stroked and kissed. The more you reveal to each other the greater your chance of developing a really loving and exciting sexual life and relationship.
Best wishes,
Jacqui

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