Let's get it out in the open:

Are you worried that menopause has to mean losing your attractiveness?
Saying goodbye to your sex drive?
Uncomfortable sex?
An unending pursuit of hormones, creams, and fix-its?

At menopause a woman's body and sexuality goes through changes that can include vaginal dryness (and other symptoms), lower libido, hot flushes, mood swings. You may worry that you are going to feel less--and be less attractive as a result.

This doesn't have to be. In addition to hormonal balancing--a subject beyond the scope of this column...menopause is an opportunity to examine your attitudes, beliefs, and approach toward sex, and make (perhaps long-overdue) changes for the better.

So where do you begin?
Trying to return to urgent, teen-age sex, with its hurried climactic orgasms, is not going to cut it - as you suspected all along. Your grown up body is capable of encompassing far more subtlety and variety and depth of experience than your teen-age body. You want to connect way more pleasurably with yourself and with your partner.

But you have to honor your changing body?a learning and discovery process that involves increased variety (beyond intercourse), emotional connection, and a caring approach.

May I suggest learning Expanded Orgasm?
Expanded Orgasm is a program ideally suited to your body and soul in menopause. It's a way of feeling more, all the way through your body, for as long as you desire. Expanded Orgasm engages not only the physical, but also your emotional and even spiritual self. And learning Expanded orgasm is a lot of fun.

It's a way of doing more, too.
Older women and their partners may find they want more than their old style of intercourse but don't know how to explore each other's sexual potential.

Expanded Orgasm teaches couples to explore the variety of ways to connect emotionally before, during and after sex. And sex itself contains far more than traditional intercourse. Manual sex, oral sex, outer-course (where a man rubs his genitals- hard or soft - outside a woman's body), and other forms of contact are all options of the menu of sexual pleasure.

Expanded Orgasm practitioners tell me they experience not just better sex, but more pleasure in all facets of their lives. Menopause doesn't have to be the end. It can be a powerful new beginning, and a time to explore what you're really capable of sensually. Sex is one area of our lives that can get better, even as we age. If you take the time to explore new ways of enjoying sex, you may well find you're having the best sex ever.

About the author:

Patricia Taylor, author of the new book Expanded Orgasm: Soar to Ecstasy at Your Lover's Every Touch, lives in Las Vegas, Nevada.

She works with women and couples in long-term relationships to develop and enhance a rich sexual life at any age. She is available for in person and telephone coaching sessions.

Please visit her website, www.expanded-orgasm.com, for further information.

Patricia Taylor, PhD
President, The Enchantment Center
Author, Expanded Orgasm



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	Great Orgasms after Menopause Patricia Taylor, PhD President, The Enchantment Center Let's get it out in the open: Are you worried that menopause has to mean losing your attractiveness? Saying goodbye to your sex drive? Uncomfortable sex? An unending pursuit of hormones, creams, and fix-its? At menopause a woman's body and sexuality goes through changes that can include vaginal dryness (and other symptoms), lower libido, hot flushes, mood swings. You may worry that you are going to feel less--and be less attractive as a result. This doesn't have to be. In addition to hormonal balancing--a subject beyond the scope of this column...menopause is an opportunity to examine your attitudes, beliefs, and approach toward sex, and make (perhaps long-overdue) changes for the better. So where do you begin? Trying to return to urgent, teen-age sex, with its hurried climactic orgasms, is not going to cut it - as you suspected all along. Your grown up body is capable of encompassing far more subtlety and variety and depth of experience than your teen-age body. You want to connect way more pleasurably with yourself and with your partner. But you have to honor your changing body?a learning and discovery process that involves increased variety (beyond intercourse), emotional connection, and a caring approach. May I suggest learning Expanded Orgasm? Expanded Orgasm is a program ideally suited to your body and soul in menopause. It's a way of feeling more, all the way through your body, for as long as you desire. Expanded Orgasm engages not only the physical, but also your emotional and even spiritual self. And learning Expanded orgasm is a lot of fun. It's a way of doing more, too. Older women and their partners may find they want more than their old style of intercourse but don't know how to explore each other's sexual potential. Expanded Orgasm teaches couples to explore the variety of ways to connect emotionally before, during and after sex. And sex itself contains far more than traditional intercourse. Manual sex, oral sex, outer-course (where a man rubs his genitals- hard or soft - outside a woman's body), and other forms of contact are all options of the menu of sexual pleasure. Expanded Orgasm practitioners tell me they experience not just better sex, but more pleasure in all facets of their lives. Menopause doesn't have to be the end. It can be a powerful new beginning, and a time to explore what you're really capable of sensually. Sex is one area of our lives that can get better, even as we age. If you take the time to explore new ways of enjoying sex, you may well find you're having the best sex ever. About the author: Patricia Taylor, author of the new book Expanded Orgasm: Soar to Ecstasy at Your Lover's Every Touch, lives in Las Vegas, Nevada. She works with women and couples in long-term relationships to develop and enhance a rich sexual life at any age. She is available for in person and telephone coaching sessions. Please visit her website, www.expanded-orgasm.com, for further information. Patricia Taylor, PhD President, The Enchantment Center Author, Expanded Orgasm Copyright 2002 Brandwynne Corporation. All rights reserved. Thank you for your trust.

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