Dear Jacqui,
Hi, I've been tying to find an answer to my question, my partner likes to play with my breasts and it seems no matter what kind of stimulation is attempted, my nipples do not get hard. They will on occasion, out of the blue, get hard. I am totally enjoying this stimulation. I know that it seems like I am not because, usually a woman's nipples will show arousal. I know my partner would be more turned on if my nipples were hard during foreplay. As would I. What is wrong with me and can I fix it? Sincerely, Peggy

Dear Peggy,
There is absolutely NOTHING wrong with you. Just let go of this fixed idea that nipples are supposed to get hard. They do in some women and don't in others. The enjoyment of pleasure is felt differently in every single human being. And you do enjoy it. That's all that count's. Your body reacts in its own very special and wonderful way.

Just accept that and both of you should stop fretting and enjoy the pleasure you give each other. Concentrate on what you feel, not what's supposed to happen. The greatest excitement and deepest pleasure we can feel is to be connected with feeling pleasure, moment by moment.

Jacqui

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