Dear Jacqui:
I have recently become involved in a great new relationship. The only problem is that I feel I have a problem with vaginal "tightness." I am 25 years old and have had many sexual relationships. I am wondering if there is any way at all besides Kegel exercises (which hasn't seemed to work for me) to get the old feeling back. I want it to feel like my first time again. Is this at all possible?
Corina

Dear Corina:
Firstly, I must tell you that the source of great sexual excitement and joy does not originate in your vagina, but in your heart and soul and mind. This wonderful rush of feeling should resonate in your entire being.

The size of your vagina is not the reason you're not feeling it. Maybe you need to rediscover, or discover for the first time, that profound feelings of love has a great deal more to do with sexual excitement and fulfillment than physical techniques. I believe from what you write that you miss the sensation of closeness and tightness when making love, the pressure of the penis against the vaginal walls. Maybe you should try to change the angle you both choose for entering. There are several positions that might give you better contact. You also mentioned that you had many sexual relationships. Well, the vagina does expand and contract.

It expands considerably when a woman is giving birth. It can also expand as a result of a very active sexual life. You say the Kegel exercises didn't work. Did you do them the right way? many women have reported positive results. There are other exercises to strengthen the "PC" muscle. And, there are surgical procedures to accomplish your goal, but they are costly and not without risk. Washing just before engaging in intimacy may help a little. The cleansing of the vaginal tissue will remove some of a woman's own lubricating moisture and give you a feeling of more tightness.

Jacqui

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