Dear Jacqui:
Is there an herbal douche that can tighten my vaginal muscles so I could have an orgasm more easily?
Annabelle

Dear Annabelle:
I have never heard of a douche that tightens the vaginal muscles and neither have the sexual counselors who we queried. In fact, to a person, we all recommend strongly that you do not use any douches, they are the cause of many vaginal infections and irritations and more serious problems, and they certainly won't help you in achieving orgasm. To reach orgasm is a problem for many women. Often this is so because both partners don't take enough time before they proceed to penetration. It is extremely important to enjoy and feel the initial pleasures of lovemaking till both partners cannot wait another second to commence actual intercourse.

Be in the moment, concentrate on what you feel while you engage in lovemaking, not on what should happen. Feel your partners touch, his kisses, your body against his. Give yourself to the pleasure rather than worry if the "big O" is going to happen. Then, it will be much more natural to experience the increasing excitement of lovemaking.

And, it might be a good idea to learn a little more about the different aspects of love. A book or tape might really help you. Love making can be learned and improved. Learn what you like, what excites you and share it with your partner. Great love making is based on good communication between partners and being in touch with your own feelings.

Jacqui

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