Dear Jacqui,
I was married for 5 years and the whole time sex was always very painful from age 21. I have always been very dry. He was a very caring and considerate man and always made sure I was ready before he entered me.

We used several kinds of lubricants, which helped me for a short time, but they dried up very quickly. I had terrible pain during and after and couldn't have sex for at least another week because of the swelling, which occurred afterwards. I usually always got an infection afterwards also.

I went to several doctors and was told there was I did not have a medical problem. Unfortunately, I never told him. I thought it was just me and I learned to live with it. I am writing about my past because after reading your articles, I have learned that I am not the only woman who suffers like this and your articles have helped me to understand a lot of things. I thank you for that.

The man I am seeing now gets too excited during foreplay and doesn't give me time to get completely aroused where I can enjoy his penetration and reach my climax. I still have pain, but not as severe because he doesn't last as long nor does he penetrate as hard. My question is: can your product help me get enough lubrication, so that I can get excited faster? Or does your product simply make the whole act more enjoyable as long as enough time is spent getting aroused before penetration occurs.
Denise

Dear Denise,
The Very Private Intimate Moisture may help you in two ways: Firstly, because you know that you'll be ready and moist for intimacy you can be more relaxed and don't have to worry. The added moisture will combine with your own. It helps make the beginning and continuance of intercourse much more comfortable and enjoyable. Not being worried, being at ease will help you to get aroused more naturally.

Also, the product will protect the delicate vaginal tissue. However, I also see a tendency of yours to not be completely open with your partner. Good sex is based on really open and caring communication between both partners. You should tell each other what you like, how you like to be touched or kissed or stroked and exactly where. Your boyfriend should also share with you what excites him the most.

Only then can you become wonderful lovers for each other. So be bold, start communicating and guiding each other. Tell him to use a little Intimate Moisture on you and you use it on him. Be playful together. Learn what feels wonderful so you can expand both of your enjoyment. And, understand, that women take about fifteen minutes to become truly open and ready sexually, sometimes even a little longer whereas men are usually ready in just a couple of minutes.

So expanded foreplay is essential for both of you to have a wonderful love experience. Many sexologists, in fact, recommend that the women have an orgasm before penetration. Penetration should not occur unless both partners absolutely cannot wait another second to be joined together. YOU now have an opportunity to share with your new love what you need to enjoy lovemaking. Don't be shy. It's your chance and his to build a wonderful intimate life together.

Jacqui

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