Dear Jacqui,
We're first time parents and adore our new baby. But we're having a really hard time getting our sex life going again. Can you tell us when most couples start making love after the baby is born and how do they find time for getting romantic with all the new chores. Thank you, Margie and Fred.

Dear Margie and Fred,
We checked around for you and the statistics are something like this: most couples make love again about two months after the baby is born and then about two to three times a month. As time goes by, the frequency increases but couples rarely have sex as often as they did before the new arrival.

Partially this is because one or both of you are exhausted from lack of sleep - having a newborn in the house that wants to be feed, cuddled and cared for at all hours takes a lot of the time you used to spend together. Little by little you will learn to fit sex back into your hurried lives. Sometimes you'll have time for a quickie. While more than half of all baby parents report that they make love while the baby's asleep in the same room there are occasions when you have to settle on a different location than the bedroom which may make your romantic encounter more enticing. There is nothing wrong with a fluffy towel on the living room floor for a passionate encounter or the back of a minivan.

Sometimes lovemaking has to be curtailed to an appetizer only, not a full course dinner. There is great pleasure, however, be engaging in mutual foreplay and reaching orgasm without intercourse. The most important thing is to keep the romantic flame burning by touching, hugging and kissing or calling your spouse and offering seven hot kisses and a grand finale when you get together this evening. Seduction by phone, by e-mail or whispered in someone's ear works like a charm.

Jacqui (top)


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