Dear Jacqui,
My husband is not interested in the things I say or want. He doesn't care if I'm not feeling good or if I'm stressed-out. I don't care to have sex with him because he doesn't seem to care about my feelings. We're even planning to have children, but he doesn't seem to care anymore. I need a partner who listens, communicates and understands. Please help,
Angela

Dear Angela,
I can well understand your pain and frustration -- it is essential that you two stop the alienation process. Stop getting away from each other and start communicating so you can rebuild the relationship. Is it not possible for you to reach him, sit down, or take a long leisurely walk and be caring but open, tell him of your hurt, your feeling of being shut out and that you want very much to make this a more meaningful more caring and intimate marriage.

If you cannot find the way to each other by yourselves, please involve the help of a trained professional. You don't want to start a family in which the parental relationship is severely damaged. Just think of the suffering that will affect everyone, including the children. Maybe that will make him understand and be willing to consider his actions.

I wish you the courage to face the issues before you. Try hard to involve your husband in the process of building a more intimate bond.

Jacqui

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