DearJacqui

I've been seeing a man regularly for the past year and he stays the weekends all the time. We get along great and the chemistry is there - their is lots of love on both sides. I, however, feel anger inside. I'm waitting for him to ask me, either to live with him, or to get married. I've been giving him hints but it's not working. I think he likes it the way it is. I don't want to lose him but how long can I wait?
Rita

Dear Rita,
Rather than let your anger distort your feelings (which they will if you can't be truthful) I suggest you have an open and caring conversation with him. Explain to him how you feel, ask him in a loving way to speak about his feelings and how he sees the future for the two of you.

He may tell you that he is not ready to make a final commitment, or, he may in fact be surprised by what you reveal. But the basis of any good relationship is open and truthful communication. If that's not available between the two of you, it doesn't bode well for a sound love partnership.

I have a feeling he is not all that comfortable in the realm of feelings. It might help him to read a book or two about loving relationships or you might even involve a counselor for a few sessions. Hope you get all you wish for.

Jacqui

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