Dear Jacqui,
I am 40 and going through a really nasty long divorce. My friends suggest I start to date again. Really deep down inside I know I would like a good relationship. Although I'm handsome and positive, I'm really scared about getting burned again.
Michael

Dear Michael,
Treasure your inner and outer gifts. Treasure your being positive and handsome. In fact, I suggest that you write down all the things that make you wonderful.

List each of your assets whatever they are, kindness, generosity, love of your children, providing a safe and loving environment, thoughtfulness, handsomeness, or good health. Briefly review your assets every single day. Each morning after waking spend a minute or two just focusing on your list of positives and embrace all that you are.

Feel it in your heart. Now is the time for you to rebuild your confidence, become whole which will take a while. If you feel like dating, go ahead but not because it was suggested by your friends. Now is the time to rebuild the relationship with yourself. YOU are the person you will be married to all your life.

You are the person to accept, you are the person to love beyond your children. I guarantee that if you feel one again with yourself, the world will feel one with you. I also suggest that you increase your activity level with and without your children. Maybe take a course or engage in an activity you've long wanted to try.

It might be a good idea to increase physical activity, which will raise your seratonin level which makes us feel good. Enjoy that you have your home to yourself, play the music you love, enjoy the other side of the divorce, the benefits. Remember, we always have choices.

Jacqui

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