Dear Jacqui,
I'm completely in the dark. I've been together with my girlfriend for over two years. For the most part we get along good. We go to the movies, I take her for dinner regularly, I pitch in on the home front and we have great sex. But she's constantly nagging how I'm not intimate enough with her. She says I don't communicate. What is she talking about? We even go running together sometimes. We watch Monday night football together. What more does she want out of me?
Doug

Dear Doug:
Men and women have different interpretations of what intimacy means. Women love the unexpected that says "you're thinking about me". A phone call to simply say "How are you, I miss you." A little gift for no reason at all. Touching, hugging or stroking her face outside the bedroom. And most of all listen to her when she needs to air her frustrations.

Don't answer, don't fix her problem, (I know you can and she does too) but she simply wants to be heard. That's why she talks to her girlfriends for hours. I know this doesn't come naturally to guys. But give it a try. You will see that small gestures to reinforce your connection can make a big difference.

Jacqui




	She's constantly nagging how I'm not intimate enough. Dear Jacqui, I'm completely in the dark. I've been together with my girlfriend for over two years. For the most part we get along good. We go to the movies, I take her for dinner regularly, I pitch in on the home front and we have great sex. But she's constantly nagging how I'm not intimate enough with her. She says I don't communicate. What is she talking about? We even go running together sometimes. We watch Monday night football together. What more does she want out of me? Doug Dear Doug: Men and women have different interpretations of what intimacy means. Women love the unexpected that says "you're thinking about me". A phone call to simply say "How are you, I miss you." A little gift for no reason at all. Touching, hugging or stroking her face outside the bedroom. And most of all listen to her when she needs to air her frustrations. Don't answer, don't fix her problem, (I know you can and she does too) but she simply wants to be heard. That's why she talks to her girlfriends for hours. I know this doesn't come naturally to guys. But give it a try. You will see that small gestures to reinforce your connection can make a big difference. Jacqui Copyright 2000 Brandwynne Corporation. All rights reserved.
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