Dear Jacqui:
I am a 38 year old married man and I went to my doctor this morning to talk to him about premature ejaculation. He recommended me getting on the Internet and find a desensitize cream or lotion. Do you folks have such a thing or know where I can find it. Thanks.
Sam

Dear Sam:
Many men have problems with premature ejaculation. It is important to understand the underlying cause of your problem to treat it effectively. Treatment can be either with medication or counseling, if it is psychologically based.

First, let me address the suggestion of your doctor to use a desensitizing cream. From what we hear from the men who have tried it, they do not work. What will work are medications that prolong the erection. These medications which are currently used are injected or orally. Several are based on "prostaglandin". A prostaglandin cream will shortly be available on the market.

Medications that prolong erections work for a specific length of time outside of your control, sometimes beyond the time you would want them to work. That's one negative. These medications require a prescription by a medical professional and also require a thorough discussion about your general health since they can cause serious side effects.

Often, however, the cause for premature ejaculation is psychologically based.There is so much pressure on men to "perform" and "stay hard." It is quite natural that men or women have difficulty in performing under stress.

I have suggested to many men not to focus about that one aspect of lovemaking. Just forget about it, take your attention off the act of "intercourse". Learn some skills on how to pleasure a woman, how to make your wife feel wonderful with other sexual techniques.

I guarantee you, if you are successful in giving her pleasure she doesn't mind if intercourse last for a short time only. In fact, some women prefer other lovemaking techniques to actual intercourse .

Lovemaking is more than a singular sexual act. There is a whole realm of intimate, wonderful experiences in making each other happy. Staying hard or coming fast is not the defining activity. Once the pressure is off and you learn to experience and enjoy intimacy in a more total way, your problem may just take care of itself.

Jacqui




	"I went to my doctor to talk to him about premature ejaculation." Dear Jacqui: I am a 38 year old married man and I went to my doctor this morning to talk to him about premature ejaculation. He recommended me getting on the Internet and find a desensitize cream or lotion. Do you folks have such a thing or know where I can find it. Thanks. Sam Dear Sam: Many men have problems with premature ejaculation. It is important to understand the underlying cause of your problem to treat it effectively. Treatment can be either with medication or counseling, if it is psychologically based. First, let me address the suggestion of your doctor to use a desensitizing cream. From what we hear from the men who have tried it, they do not work. What will work are medications that prolong the erection. These medications which are currently used are injected or orally. Several are based on "prostaglandin". A prostaglandin cream will shortly be available on the market. Medications that prolong erections work for a specific length of time outside of your control, sometimes beyond the time you would want them to work. That's one negative. These medications require a prescription by a medical professional and also require a thorough discussion about your general health since they can cause serious side effects. Often, however, the cause for premature ejaculation is psychologically based.There is so much pressure on men to "perform" and "stay hard." It is quite natural that men or women have difficulty in performing under stress. I have suggested to many men not to focus about that one aspect of lovemaking. Just forget about it, take your attention off the act of "intercourse". Learn some skills on how to pleasure a woman, how to make your wife feel wonderful with other sexual techniques. I guarantee you, if you are successful in giving her pleasure she doesn't mind if intercourse last for a short time only. In fact, some women prefer other lovemaking techniques to actual intercourse . Lovemaking is more than a singular sexual act. There is a whole realm of intimate, wonderful experiences in making each other happy. Staying hard or coming fast is not the defining activity. Once the pressure is off and you learn to experience and enjoy intimacy in a more total way, your problem may just take care of itself. Jacqui Copyright 2000 Brandwynne Corporation. All Rights Reserved.

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