Dear Jacqui,
I'm 48 and she's 42. Our new relationship is 4 months old and torrid at times. Most info I've found on vaginal dryness, addresses discomfort experienced by a woman. The sensation that I'm experiencing is partially alleviated by the spermicidal cream/lubricant that we use. It can't be described as "dryness" however, "roughness" fits better. Its an almost gritty, abrasive feeling and is uncomfortable for me not her. Any suggestions?
Jim

Dear Jim,
You are not alone. Many men experience discomfort during intercourse, especially during extended lovemaking. The skin of the penal shaft is very sensitive and can become dry and feeling rough. You should use an intimate moisturizer rather than a lubricant, or a product like Very Private Intimate Moisture that combines both moisturizing ingredients to soften and soothe the skin as well as lubricants to provide glide. There is also a possibility that the spermicidal cream you are using causes you dryness and an allergic reaction.

Actually many people are allergic to spermicidal creams. I suggest you stop using it for a while. If you use the cream to protect your lady friend from getting pregnant, choose another birth control method. There are many choices for both men and women.

Another possibility causing your skin problem may stem from the use of soaps in your private area. They are too drying and leave a residue, further irritating your skin. Soaps that contain deodorizing ingredients are often far too aggressive to be used for the cleansing of the sexual organs.

Again, you might try Very Private's Body Wash which is extremely mild, containing no fragrance or additives that could irritate you. If the irritation does not go away, we suggest you consult a dermatologist or urologist. It could be a bacterial or fungal infection.

Jacqui

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