-Orgasm is not the only road to satisfaction; how you make one another feel is.

-Use a lubricant and keep it nearby-on the bedside table or other appropriate place.

-Make sure your breath and mouth area are clean. I know that's obvious but just make sure.

-Slowly, slowly, slowly.

-Involve her entire body. Put your mouth and hands everywhere and use the Swirl.

-Using that most powerful of your sex organs, your brain, consider approaching her body as if it or some part of it is new for you. Anyone can say, "Yeah, been there done that," and what shows up is a "been there done that" attitude.

If on the other hand you have a fresh new attitude, she will be able to tell. Add that to the comfort of already knowing one another and you have a whole new world to play in. Mentally treat her as new.

-Check ideas on yourself first.

-Check in with her regularly about pressure and speed, as her preferences can change throughout a given session.

-Check stubble. Men with beards can make their beards softer and more user-friendly with hair conditioner.

-If one of you is eating spicy or heavily seasoned food prior to being intimate, share a taste with each other. This tip was from an elegant European woman who said in her thick Hungarian accent, "You both need to so your chemistries will blend better." So be sure to share your Caesar salad.

Foreplay, some final words:
Fabulous foreplay is all about enticing and exciting both her mind and her body. I think it's about time, though, that we come up with another term for foreplay. I think this term implies that foreplay isn't enough in and of itself.

To the contrary, for women, the kissing, touching, and teasing are necessary and often very satisfying parts of lovemaking. As you will see in the next two chapters on manual and oral sex, women often have trouble letting go if they're not already warmed up. As one woman, a magazine writer from Philadelphia, said, "When we have the time during lovemaking to really play, it is sex on a different plane."

Author Lou Paget. Reprinted with permission from her book. "How to Give Her Absolute Pleasure." Available here at the online shopping cart.

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