Dear Jacqui:
I am the husband of a woman I am still in love with after 15 years of marriage but I worry if she still cares about me. In the last few years my wife hasn't been very encouraging when I approach her sexually and I know for sure she's not interested in anyone else. Any suggestions?" Steve

Dear Steve:
Great intimacy, whether its physical or sexual, is based on open communication and that seems to be lacking between the two of you. Talk to your wife even if it feels a little awkward at first, discuss your needs and listen to hers. Lack of clarity between people leads to misunderstandings or worse. You might consider involving a couples therapist a few times if the wall of silence is too difficult to break.

Your problem may be psychological or physiological, often it is a combination of the two and you have to first acknowledge the cause of the problem before you can solve it. Its a real positive sign that you took the first step to do so. With your caring attitude, I'm sure you can move your relationship back to a romantic and more sexually enjoyable path.

Jacqui





	"I worry If she still cares for me." Dear Jacqui: I am the husband of a woman I am still in love with after 15 years of marriage but I worry if she still cares about me. In the last few years my wife hasn't been very encouraging when I approach her sexually and I know for sure she's not interested in anyone else. Any suggestions?" Steve Dear Steve: Great intimacy, whether its physical or sexual, is based on open communication and that seems to be lacking between the two of you. Talk to your wife even if it feels a little awkward at first, discuss your needs and listen to hers. Lack of clarity between people leads to misunderstandings or worse. You might consider involving a couples therapist a few times if the wall of silence is too difficult to break. Your problem may be psychological or physiological, often it is a combination of the two and you have to first acknowledge the cause of the problem before you can solve it. Its a real positive sign that you took the first step to do so. With your caring attitude, I'm sure you can move your relationship back to a romantic and more sexually enjoyable path. Jacqui Copyright 2001 Brandwynne Corporation. All rights reserved.

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