Identify the problem:
Is it psychological or physiological? Are you suffering from depression and taking an antidepressant such as Zoloft, Prozac or Paxil? These medications may make you feel better but they can also depress your sexual drive.

Discuss with your doctor the dosage and if you can go off drugs occasionally or switch to an antidepressant like Welbutrin that does not dampen your sexual drive. Furthermore, be aware that many other medications such as antibiotics, birth control pills, tranquilizers, cholesterol or blood pressure reducing drugs, even antihistamines can depress your sexual desires.

Is it you or your partner?
Are you and your partner compatible in bed? Are you able to reach orgasm? Do you feel satisfied after your lovemaking? If not, ask yourself if you can get sexually excited through fantasy, pleasing yourself to reach orgasm, reading or seeing a sexy episode and get aroused? If your answer is yes, lack of desire is most probably not your problem. Maybe your lukewarm interest is partner specific.

Have your hormones checked.
Maybe there's an imbalance. Estrogen and testosterone have an important role in our sexual drive. As we mature these key hormones decrease. Your doctor can advise you if any hormone therapy is advisable.

Are you comfortable to communicate openly about sex?
Do you discuss the details of lovemaking with your partner? Tell him exactly what you like, how to touch you, find out what really pleases him? A really good sexual understanding between the two of you is the best way to wonderful intimacy and sensuousness. Besides, frankness, loving communication is a great sexual stimulator.

Are you comfortable with your body?
If you're self conscious about those extra pounds on your hips, start exercising. It promotes blood flow and sexual response. If you like your body, others will quickly understand the message and take notice. If you are trying to hide your body it is difficult to feel relaxed while making love. A healthy diet, a regular exercise program promotes well-being and the way you look. Liking your body is a good start to have others like it.

Is intimacy uncomfortable because you are too dry?
54% of all women have vaginal dryness problems because of stress, low estrogen levels, or because the moisture the body produces is only sufficient for procreation but not for extended, recreational lovemaking. An intimate moisturizer prevents vaginal dryness and lets you enjoy lovemaking as long as you want without discomfort. Many men report that they find it incredibly exciting to be massaged with the magic potion.

Create a conducive environment:
A dinner with candlelight, a bottle of wine, music that is a romantic message to both of you, a little fragrance in the bend of your knee, a pretty lounge-around outfit all add to creating the desirable mood. While preparing, think about all the things you are going to do to him and what will please you the most. Share the fantasy with him.

The most powerful sex organ is your mind. Use it creatively in order to conjure up the most wonderful intimate moments.

Jacqui